Men really are from Mars......

Ok I get men and woman come from entirely different planets. This has been a theory rehashed and regurgitated and discussed and spoken about inside out for hundreds of years but for a generation of scientists who can cure disease and technologically advanced braniacs who can create cell phones that connect to social networks which can pin point your exact location How the HELL have we not learnt to figure each other out??? And why does it seem like we are not even trying? 

In my opinion you either want something or you don’t! You either say something and mean it or you don’t. You either getting something out of your actions or your not so when someone comes along and blows that all out of the water for me I cant help but somewhat freak out a little. You see a lot of people may argue that I’m at times complex and over analytical BUT I actually just crave simplicity. I just crave honesty and the balls for someone to be straightforward. All I want is to know what the facts are so that I can deal with them appropriately and move on. I don’t like limbo and I don’t like living in a grey patch. 

Men seem to think that the way they act is for the greater good of women kind whereas woman just want the straight up truth. For all the haters and all those who think I’m on a man bashing mission – Stop Breathe and understand this is a blog where thoughts and opinions of mine and those around me can be expressed, so before you judge just remember Fallen Butterfly is an Expression of Self. Kay back to it – I have a lot of male friends and it seems whenever a girl they just happen to know gets hurt (by them) the first words that come out of their mouths go something like this…… “well I told her from the beginning I didn’t want a relationship” or “this is exactly why id didn’t want to sleep with her.” Thanks for realising that after you fucked up Einstein! 

Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but all the while you were telling that girl how you didn’t want to hurt her and how you just wanted to be friends – the fact that you kept on sleeping with her and taking her out and messaging her all the lil cute quirky quotes you probably get weekly updates from cheesypickuplines.com – you were very conscious of what you were doing and could have spent your time in a ore worthwhile way, like , I dunno, NOT leading the girl on. 

You could have not wasted her time with all your melodramatic bullshit and stopped thinking with your penis and considered how you would feel if the tables were turned. Sucks to admit but I bet you wouldn’t like it. I’m not saying its only men that do this cos I have heard that there are woman out there that do the same but thank my lucky stars I have never had the pleasure of befriending any of them because I feel its a cheap lame attempt of making yourself feel good and wanted, when the people in question are really just very insecure. 

I can’t really write from a mans perspective as I am clearly not a man but for all the men who are reading this, this is how you should play this situation out from a woman’s point of view… Firstly if you don’t want a relationship then don’t have one – don’t pretend to be in one when its suits you and have the balls to be honest from day one. If you go to a club and you looking to get laid and you actually happen to come right but see no future with the woman in question, then don’t swap numbers, BB pins or FB names, and don’t say you’ll call when you both know you wont. Stop thinking of yourselves as the stronger sex, because times have changed and that is hugely debatable at this point. We can earn our own money and take out our own trash.  Stop thinking that you gonna hurt every girls feelings by telling the truth – some of us actually prefer to hear it so we don’t have to get caught up in a game either. And some of us just don’t really care cos we don’t really think you’re all that anyway.  Understand the harsh reality that in today’s day and age women are not so privy to sex after marriage and sometimes you are the one who is being used so therefore your string of dinners and dorky messages are completely unnecessary. 

If you are not looking for sex or a relationship with a girl and merely just want a friendship DON’T flirt with her when you hard up for a attention and if you know (an make sure you are not assuming boys) that she is looking for a guy who wants that, then introduce her to someone who is on the same page. Don’t fuck your friends and don’t date your booty calls - its all very simple.

Girls work on signs and they read into almost everything so the best way to handle us is with honesty. Tell a girl she has a big bum, and yes, chances are she won’t talk to you again, but her ass will be hauled into the gym tomorrow where it will slowly begin to deplete but lie to her foR 6 months and watch it grow. Admitting after you screwed up and then saying “well at least I was honest” doesn’t mean shit – in fact its even worse because they way I see it,  its like a murderer killing someone and then confessing with the deluded logic that its okay now because they confessed. It doesn’t change the suffering they caused and doesn’t redeem your actions. 

So in a final plea to all the bastards out there who think they doing us a favour – Get over yourselves and try and be a little bit decent and be honest BEFORE you mess us around. Our time is just as valuable as yours and we would prefer to waste it on ourselves and our mates than on a douche bag like you!  

Rock on or Rock out!