Don’t hate the player, hate the game…..

Okay great so what if I didn’t sign up for any stupid game and I don’t feel like playing? Or what if I got bored and don’t feel like playing anymore. Geez sometimes the cat, mouse scenario between men and woman can get dragged out so long and become as boring as an ongoing Monopoly Marathon. It was fun when you started but now its just eating into valuable time that could be spent doing something so much more productive.

Yes we get it, you own fifty hotels and 40 streets and every time I come close, you fine me and I feel miserable but for crying out loud aren’t you getting bored yet? I mean Ok great – we went out we flirted, we waited around for a few days wondering is he gonna call, isn’t he, then we did the “Oooh I like you but I don’t” dance and then what??? Sometimes this sing song between two singles takes a few weeks before it fizzles, sometimes a few days but in essence the ones that all start the same usually all end the same so what the hell is the point?

Why do we have to play stupid little games to attract the attention or interest of the opposite sex?! What is this "3 day rule before calling someone" bullshit? What is this “the more you pretend to not like him – the more he’ll like you” crap and what the hell is up with the “don’t give too much away” stupidity?! Who the hell comes up with the rules and who are the idiots that decide it’s a good idea to follow them? Surely we would want to attract someone that is like us and that we can trust and be open and comfortable with? And surely we would be wasting our time hooking up with anyone less than what we want so why the hell cant we be honest?!

Why cant we say – “well that was a fun night but I’m not really ready for anything right now so lets not tarnish the fun we had” and slip away and out of the other parties lives quietly? Or why can’t we say – “that was a great night – call again so we can get to know each other” and actually really call with an open mind and maybe build a bond with that person.

Why is sex a challenge for men and a relationship a challenge for women. Or maybe, that could be turned around and still make the same amount of sense. Why are men constantly continuing meaningless relationships with woman they are simply not into, whilst leading them on and hurting their feelings and why are woman so hell bent on convincing said man that he is ready for a relationship and he does love her he just hasn’t noticed it yet?

Why do we torture ourselves with such nonsense? Where did you ever hear that Cinderella screwed 40 guys after too many tequila shots until she met Prince Charming? Or Rapunzel hooking a up a rig so her dude could get to her easier… please… Not even Fiona made it easy for Shrek to get her trapped in Holy Matrimony. 

I dont like games and I dont play games, unless its 30 seconds with a bottle of Jack Daniels, at a braai! I dont get it and quite frankly I dont really wanna get it. Sure i could be that girl that goes out with a different boy every weekend by following some set of cheat notes derived from other girls, but what happens afterwards? What happens when you land up with someone that you realise you have barely anything in common with because you never got to know the real person you each are? Its called deception plain and simple! Doesn't matter how much you try and bedazzle it and how many pretty ribbons u slap on - when it comes down to it - its really not a whole lot of fun spending so much time on pretending you something you not and watching every word you say.

My theory is simple! If you like someone be yourself! It may not be what that person wants but if not, then ask yourself  this - if that is true do you really want them? Looks will fade and clothes will go out of fashion but personality is there for life! Keep it real!

Game Over!