Every girl needs some great friends...

There really is a vital importance of girlfriends. One or two close girlfriends can build self-esteem, can help us value ourselves and what we do, can provide necessary acknowledgement when our bosses and boyfriends or parents do not, can help us gain perspective in problem-solving, and can in stressful times provide a shoulder to cry on. A good girlfriend never says, “I told you so,” but supports us in our pain while encouraging us to make better choices. A good girlfriend will share interests with us, keep us on track toward our goals, share chick flicks and chocolate. A good girlfriend knows our secrets and still adores us.

The old saying goes... People come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. Its amazing how true this one line really is. Over the years I have had some of the most amazing friendships and some  of those bonds are still just as strong as ever before however, some, sadly, fell to the wayside. Its crazy how the handful of girls whom i thought had my back through thick and thin were the first to drop me when it really mattered the most and the one unlikely friendship, turned into one of the most solid and trustworthy relationships i have, despite the distance in kilometres between us. 

Its funny how people speak of A best friend... What defines a BEST friend and how do you choose? Is it someone whom you've been friends with the longest or someone who's done the most for you or the one you have shared the most with? For me personally its all of the above and more, so to "pick" a best friend is impossible. All my friends are Best Friends. 

I have truly been blessed with the most amazing friends. Some of which I know will be a part of my life forever and some that may fade out in time but, who, still have  brought me joy and comfort and laughs and hugs and have helped me to realise and explore different facets of myself. I have my Bunny Boiler, My Jiminy Cricket, My Rock, My Mama Bear, My Sanity and so so many more. I'm not sure who i would be if i didn't have the special girls in my life to surround me with the love and support that they do. 

Though i feel that men and women can be really close friends, I want to point out that you will never share with a man the things you share with a girlfriend who adores you. I have a loads of guy friends, probably more guy friends than girl friends if I'm honest, but I would die before I would share anything as deep with them. How many men want to discuss PMS? Childbirth? Broken hearts? Trouble with children? Children in general? Your accomplishments? By nature, women are intuitive and emotional. Men are action oriented. So as much as I love all my guy friends, nothing beats a girls night and a fit of giggles or the soothing support from your Bestie during your broken hearted, hatred of men ,stage and the way she will agree that your ex boyfriends new girl friend's head, really is the size of a melon.

In order to reap the benefits of a true girlfriend, the relationship should be with someone with a common life situation, common goals, or common interests. Yet there is something special in the way that opposites truly do attract... 

So to all my Girls - you are the family I was just never born into and i love you ALL to pieces!  

xxx